Be disgusted with your life now. Be sick of it! Ready to change. Never to look back! You need to be ready to put your old life behind you! OK ready to start? Then keep reading. No one can make you want to change your life but you. No one! If you really do want a new beginning read on.
Change the way you think. When you need to change everything about you and to completely start over in life you need to make some major adjustments between your ears. You need to think like a new person, act like a new person, dress like a new person, surround yourself with new people. You need to start thinking positively. Put away the I can’t, what ifs, and maybes and get down to the nitty gritty of changing your life.
Determine exactly who you want to be. What will you look like. What will you dress like? What will your relationship look like? Where will you live? What car are you driving? Take a good 15 minutes, close your eyes and really imagine the life you want down to what you feel like in that life. Take a good mental snapshot of your perfect life. You need to believe, without a shadow of a doubt that this person you envisioned will be you.
The second step is Major life housecleaning. To become a whole new person you may need to get rid of the same old people in your life that bring you down. You need to find the energy drainers in your life and get rid of them. Oh you know who they are. You know the friend that always creates drama. Your negative relative that is always putting you down or nay saying. What about your boyfriend/girlfriend/spouse. I know this is the hardest person to let go of, but if they cause you to cry, or make you feel bad about yourself, or cause you to feel horrible in any way, t is time to say goodbye. Some of the people that have I have spoke to that have went through this life changing process have told me they didn’t realize how much energy and happiness a person has stolen from you until you have let that person go and you regain your happiness back. If you are only with a person because you love them, not because they uplift or benefit you. If you do everything for them, and they do nothing for you. It is time so say goodbye. Take them out of your phone, FaceBook, etc. Quit contacting them. Drop them like a bad habit. They are bringing negative energy in your life and you don’t need that.
The third step is to get healthy. You can not be an optimal person if you have subpar health. It is time for a full head to toe physical. I know this may scare you. Or you may say you don’t have the money for it. You need to do it. There are health departments in every county of the US. If you don’t have insurance they operate on a sliding scale fee. There are free clinics as well. Be honest with your health care provider. Do you do drugs, or drink or smoke? They need to know. Request to have blood work done so you know your sugar, cholesterol, etc. You need to know everything about your body so if anything at all is wrong you can correct it. This was the hardest step for me to take. Why? Because I am terrified of them finding something wrong. I was certain just a few months ago when I found a lump in my breast that I had cancer. I finally, after much pushing from my husband, went and got everything checked and found I am in optimal health. Let me urge you, you cant fix your life if you are operating with a less than optimal body. GET A PHYSICAL!
Note: If you have an addiction it is time to come clean. If you really want to change your life it needs to stop now. I know it is not going to be easy. But life changing events are not easy. You must decide, no one else can do it for you. Do you want to keep living the horrible life you are or do you want to live the life you have dreamed of? You will never get a high like living the life you were meant to live. Call AA or NA. Put your bullshit reasons and excuses for not quitting aside. Hand your head for a minute in shame. Get over it. Make the call or ask your doctor where you can go to get help. Check yourself into a rehab if need be. You need to get all that nasty shit out of your system. You can not live a normal happy life when something else is controlling your life
The fourth step is to have a form of income so that you can have a cushion or emergency fund. This is not to pay bills right now or to buy something you want or need. This is to give you a solid foundation to start living your dreams. Yes you can do this even if your homeless! May it be a job or starting a little business. If you are reading this you have access to a computer so your better off than some out there. The average person needs a minimum of $3,000 in an emergency fund. YOU NEED THIS. You need to get this in an honest way. Anything you do dishonest will bring you back horrible results. You can earn it through a job even if its at McDonald’s. Put your pride away. Its useless, and hasn’t got you very far has it? You can earn it by washing cars, delivering newspapers, doing housekeeping for someone. You can also do recycling, affiliate marketing, or by having a garage sale. I will provide a whole list later in this blog of ways to make quick money. Do this to start your emergency fund! Not for any other reason. If you need to buy necessities, such as food or transportation or such put half the money you make away toward your emergency fund and do not spend it for any reason.
The fourth step is stability. If your life is chaotic you are probably not in a stable living environment. Do you move often? Live with friends or family in a less than supportive environment? You need your own place or if you live with someone else it needs to be a positive environment. If you have one great, but if you don’t this needs to be your objective. Even if it is in a studio apartment or HUD housing. You and your children if you have any need stability. What if you can’t afford it? There are programs out there to help you! Quit boo-hooing and get off your ass and make this happen! You are not a victim or broken anymore. Get done what you need to get done so you can put this bullshit life behind you and start living the life you want. You can find a responsible roommate to help split the bills if need be. Remember to screen this person well. You need to surround yourself with a positive people and have a positive environment. You will not get very far in life if you do not change your surroundings.
The fifth step is fixing your credit. Credit is very important. It is hard to get a good job or a nicer place when your credit sucks. With the downturn in the economy most people have sucky credit. It happens. Deal with it. Don’t fall for debt settlement or any scheme to get rid of debt. You can fix it on your own. If it is too bad you may need to file bankruptcy. Either way if you have bad credit you need to fix it. Time will heal a bankruptcy. I will make a page on here of ways to legally fix your credit for good. While your credit is being repaired you can work on other pressing aspects of you life.
The sixth step is appearance. When you look bad, you feel bad. Plain and simple. Do you need to lose weight? Maybe a hair cut or a few nice outfits. Even if you have to go the Goodwill. You need to look your best. When you do good things will come your way. You won’t get a good job or attract positive people in your life when you look like a bum. You will not be taken seriously or at the best you will be dismissed. Make yourself up! Be proud of the new you!
The seventh step is regular work. Apply for jobs. Any job that you think you can do. Apply for 30-40 jobs a day to start off with. Make finding a job your full time job right now. Use your computer for something good for once. Do you need a resume. There are several resume writing programs out there free that you may use. Go online and google sample resumes. Now that your emergency fund is well on its way you need to find a stable job or start your own business. Some of you may not be able to get a job due to your background or other reasons. That doesn’t mean that you can’t make an honest living. I will devote a whole page to jobs you can do at home, or that are entrepreneurial in nature that you can start now without much investment other than hard work.