Being nice is not difficult, but it needs some polishing for others to realize your effort. A smile on your face makes others smile too. A kind word to someone, or holding a door open to the person who is about to enter, is really easy to do, and in the long run will make even you happy!
Smile to the people you meet, it will urge the other person to smile back. Smiling to others more often is an essential movement to niceness. Even if you don’t like the person, still remain civil and acknowledge them. Try to smile but don’t go too far with chat or overly expressive smiles because that will just come off as fake.
Don’t be shy to introduce yourself to new people. Greet people that come by, and when they see your recognition they will likely respond. Who knows, you may make a great new friend you could have never met if you hadn’t of stepped up and said hello.
Start a conversation. Talk about small stuff that you know the person would be interested in. If you don’t know the other person well enough to know about their preferences, try to talk about things happening around you. (The meeting you’ve both been to an hour ago, the new guy in Math class, the fantastic new shoes your colleague has been wearing, etc.) Incorporating humor always helps, people enjoy someone who can make them laugh or has a sense of humor and can understand them. Dry conversation doesn’t leave an impression.
Everyone loves compliments, so don’t be afraid to say something positive about the other person. But be careful, though, not to flatter them too much. Too much flattery can give the impression that you are sucking up to them, and especially if this new friend is a superior, they will think of you as a lapdog or butt-kisser.
Make arrangements to meet or talk almost every week. Remember to exchange contact methods. Get her email, grab his address, ask for their phone number. Don’t leave without getting their personal info if you really like him/her! (However, if they balk at supplying contact information, do not harass them trying to get it. Be nice, smile, and offer to run into them again someday.)
Get them something nice once in a while. And for holidays or birthdays, buy something really special that you know she/he will really appreciate. It doesn’t need to be something super expensive. A box of chocolates, a new notebook, if you really mean it, your friend will get the message and be nicer to you too.
Be polite to others. Help when needed, even to people you have never met before. That person might be lonely, and you may be the only one they have talked to that day. Imagine how happy they will be…and you will be happy also, knowing you have been nice to someone.
Don’t cuss. It projects an ugly image of you.
Be nice to everyone, even those who have been nasty to you. Who knows? They might start being nice to you, too! And if they don’t, at least you are being decent.
Be eager to offer help. Especially to those who have their arms full, children they are attending to, difficulty walking, carrying heavy articles, etc. One day, you might be like them, and they will offer their help to you. Lending others a helping hand is also a good feeling.
Offer to help clean up after a party or a get-together. The host might be tired, and welcome your help.
Always remember to treat people the way you would like to be treated. If you are nice to people they will treat you in the right manner, and if you are horrible and nasty to people they will think that you’re mean and ignore you.
If people are nasty to you, always treat them nicely even though you don’t want to. It will come in use one day.
If you have people who are very ill-mannered to you, never act the same way back, because you are bringing yourself down to their level.
If you are having trouble seeing the best in people, think of their talents. Is s/he really brainy? Do they have amazing fashion sense? Everyone has something to value.
Do things that are fun to the people and make them feel good…