The Flying Sikh : Milkha Singh

Milkha

Sardar Milkha Singh is the greatest living Sikh Athlete. Born in a family of modest means, joining the army and then discovering the penchant for running and winning is his life in summation. . He deservedly got an epithet named “Flying Sikh” from Pakistan General Ayub Khan. Till date (Until 2000 Sydney Olympics) the ‘Flying Sikh’ is the only Indian to have broken an Olympic record. Unfortunately, he was the fourth athlete to reset the mark and thus missed the bronze medal in the 400m event at the Rome Olympics in 1960.

For the man who won 77 of the 80 races he ran, Milkha Singh has no medals. It has been some years that ‘The Flying Sikh’ donated his sporting treasures to the nation. No personal souvenirs line his living room walls, no trophies sit on the mantle. Instead, the walls make do with pictures of the surgeon in America who saved his wife’s life and Havildar Bikram Singh, a Kargil martyr. “I have given permission that my medals be transferred from the Jawaharlal Nehru stadium in New Delhi to the sports museum in Patiala,” says the 72-year-old Singh. Strangely, the stadium gallery lined with many of India’s sporting talent does not have a single picture of Milkha Singh. In a country where great sportspersons are few and far between, India has a strange way of honouring its stars.

But Milkha Singh’s achievements can do without such testimony. “The people of this country remember me. I may have started dyeing my beard but I am recognised at airports, railway stations — anywhere. School textbooks have chapters on me, and somehow the sobriquet ‘The Flying Sikh’ has endured in people’s memory,” he says. Singh, however, has no complaints about the recognition given to him by the government. A Padma Shri and Arjuna Award winner, the legendary athlete who started his career on a Rs 10 wage went on to become director, sports, ministry of education in the Punjab government. “I have received more than I deserved.”

It was a hard uphill climb for the refugee from Muzaffargarh in west Pakistan. The Partition massacres of 1947 took the lives of his parents and Singh was rejected by the army thrice. He subsequently enrolled in the army’s electrical mechanical engineering branch in 1952 when his brother Malkhan Singh put in a word for him, and experienced his first sport outing at its athletics meet a fortnight later. “That was the first time I saw a ground bedecked with flags,” reminisces Singh. “I later participated in a crosscountry race with 300 to 400 jawans. And sat down after the first half mile before starting again — that was my first race.”

Determined to be the best and realising his talent as a sprinter, the jawan took to training five hours every day. Motivated by his coach Havildar Gurdev Singh, he left it to the elements to hone his craft — running on the hills, the sands of the Yamuna river, and against the speed of a metre gauge train. He says so intense was his training that very often he vomitted blood and would collapse in exhaustion.
Every morning Milkha Singh still goes for a jog by the Sukhna lake in Chandigarh. Most afternoons are spent playing golf and he uses the gym in his house regularly. “Discipline. You have to be disciplined if you want to be world class,” he says, “That’s what I tell my son Jeev. I give him the example of Tiger Woods, and hope he would bring the medal I couldn’t.” Jeev Milkha Singh, India’s best golfer, was recently awarded the Arjuna Award and is striving to make a mark on the international golf circuit. Whether he does manage to bring the sporting glory that eluded his father, is yet to be seen. Till then, it is a disappointment that Milkha Singh will never forget. Forty years on, that failure in Rome still haunts him. 1960. The Olympics at Rome.

After clocking a world record 45.8 seconds in one of the 400 metres preliminaries in France, Milkha Singh finished fourth in a photofinish in the Olympics final. The favourite for gold had missed the bronze. By a fraction… “Since it was a photofinish, the announcements were held up. The suspense was excruciating. I knew what my fatal error was: After running perilously fast in lane five, I slowed down at 250 metres. I could not cover the lost ground after that — and that cost me the race.” “After the death of my parents, that is my worst memory,” says Singh, “I kept crying for days.” Dejected by his defeat, he made up his mind to give up sport. It was after much persuasion that he took to athletics again. Two years later, Milkha Singh won two medals at the 1962 Asian Games. But by then his golden period was over.
It was between 1958 and 1960 that Milkha Singh saw the height of glory. From setting a new record in the 200 and 400 metres at the Cuttack National Games, he won two gold medals at the Asian Games at Tokyo. The lean Sikh went on to win gold at the Commonwealth Games in Cardiff, and was awarded the Helms trophy or being the best athlete in 1959.

Three years before the Indo-Pak war of 1965, Milkha Singh ran that one race which made President Ayub Khan christen him ‘The Flying Sikh.’ His defeat of Pakistan’s leading athlete and winner of the 100 metres gold at the Tokyo Asiad, Abdul Khaliq, earned him India’s bestknown sports sobriquet. “It has stuck since,” he adds.

Thirty six years later, Britain’s Ann Packer remembers him too. This time for his camaraderie. Jittery about her performance in the 800 metres against formidable French German and Hungarian athletes in the Tokyo Olympics in 1964, Packer clearly remembered her encounter with Singh in the lift they shared on the day of her event. ‘Ann you vill win,’ she recounted Singh’s words to a The Sunday Times journalist at her home in Cheshire recently. And vin she did. Packer clocked 2min 1.1 sec and set a new world record. Singh was among the first to congratulate her.

There are many who still congratulate Milkha Singh. “Sirji, I remember seeing you when I was a young recruit in the army,” said Gairwar Singh as he chanced upon the former athlete getting into his car outside the Chandigarh Golf Club. Elated that Singh stops to shake hands with him, Gairwar Singh — now a driver with a transport company in Delhi — tells him about his interest in wrestling. “It is appreciation from the people that helps me go ahead at this age,” Singh had earlier said at his home in Sector 8, Chandigarh. With two of his daughters married and one away in the United States, and his son travelling around the world regularly — Singh says he enjoys the tranquility. Last year, he adopted the seven-year-old son of Havildar Bikram Singh who died in the Battle for Tiger Hill. The child is at a boarding school and Singh has taken on the responsibility of bringing him up.

“We owe it to those who have died for the honour of our country,” he says, “Unlike our cricketers who have sold our country.” Deeply disappointed with these ambassadors of India’s most popular game, he firmly believes the guilty should be punished. “They cannot mock the aspirations of an entire nation,” says Singh surveying the debris of many a fallen sporting icon.

Defending Your Beliefs

Beliefs

You need to know why you chose the belief. What reason did you have? Make sure it is a good reason so you aren’t caught off guard or look bad.

Do plenty of research on it. If it is a different religion, look up the religion in textbooks or on the internet. If it is a style, you may do research if you want, but also you need to stand as to what you wear, and explain that it’s not evil, it’s just different.

On a piece of paper, record all of the data you’ve uncovered.

Confront the person you are trying to convince. If they often come to you, be prepared. Maybe practice discussing it with yourself, a friend, or somebody you can trust.

Firmly tell them that your religion/belief is what you believe in. Stand up for it, and don’t take their discouraging words. Have confidence that your belief is the right thing for you, because to the best of your knowledge, it is true.

Don’t get offended if others question your beliefs. If you are truly secure about them, then you have nothing to worry about.

Understand that some beliefs have no foundation, and need to be put out to pasture.

If your belief is controversial, don’t flaunt it.

Don’t wear your heart on your sleeve. Sometimes it’s best to just keep your ideas to yourself to avoid fights.

Say Country What?

The Lady
Now today, I would like to enlighten you about a simple but seemingly complex issue that is ’Patriotism’. Now here in Teen Soup,
my main focus is surely the teens of today or the GenY. But it does reach out to the viewers of all ages. So to speak, this
generation appears to be the ruthless and carefree one, so brothers and sisters I feel you though but a part of me now
understands my lack of belonging towards humanism due to my sheer selfishness. A good example to explain my point to all my
fellow friends would be of citing an example of the biopic of the legendary Aung Sang Su Kyi, titled as The Lady. You guys, I’m
sure most of you don’t even know who she is and what she stood for and still continues to. She is one of the great followers of
the Gandhian principles which in today’s world are only known in theory. She is the driving force behind liberating Burma, now
known as Myanmar from the cruel and atrocious rule of the military force. She chose her country before her dying husband ridden
with cancer and her two young kids. She sacrificed her peaceful life in Oxford to fight for the rights of millions of aggrieved in
Burma and be their voice. The first election that was a result of her non-violent aggitations turned victorious for her with she
winning by 392 to 10 votes. Still she believed that her struggle and fight wasn’t over and there was a lot left to do in Burma.
She was kept on a house arrest for 15 long years away from her family. She was conferred with the Noble Peace Prize during the
time she served under strict prohibitions. Sadly her life had always been tragic with she first losing her father, country, mother and
later husband. And inspite of such a traumatic and life changing experience, she was hurt both mentally and psychologically but
she carried on with the vision she had come with in Burma. So teens, don’t you think she is enough of an inspiration for us to
change that I couldn’t care a damn attitude to actually realize what we have is through the sacrifices of many such people like
Gandhi, Mandela, Su Kyi etc. If we can’t get the meaning of freedom then better atleast respect it. Because what comes to us so
easily is a result of phenomenas like mass protects, genocides, sacrifices etc. I myself am not a person too much into patriotism
or nationalism. But after watching this beautiful movie of this Iron Lady, it gave me a reason to cherish what I’ve been gifted with.
So people, look up from those bedazzled phones, fancy watches, expensive shoes and mirror to see and understand life more
than materialism. Yes we have been brought up in a free world, but underestimating those martyrs would be a shame and
disgrace to them and their personal loss. So just try to go beyond what’s written in texts and utilize those teachings and principles
left like an abandoned kid wanting to be needed again or a dog wanting to be adopted. Look through the travails of time, and
worship your country like the monks of Burma to the ultimate sacrifice of Su Kyi for her people. This article wasn’t my plan, but the
impact or the impression that this movie left on me was worth sharing and making aware of.

Holidays Yeah, But What A Stress!! – Part II

Merry Christmas - II

Watch your alcohol intake. Alcohol is often relied upon to ease stress during the holidays. One or two drinks a few times a week might be ideal for this purpose. More than this can increase your stress, cause you to put on weight and can cloud your judgment, making things seem more negative and overwhelming than they actually are.

For events such as New Year’s Eve, let yourself have a glass or two of the very best wine or sparkling drinks instead of drinking to get drunk. You deserve the far better experience.

At the same time, let yourself unwind after a busy day. Have a glass of wine with dinner, or a hot toddy an hour or two before bed. If it helps you unwind, go for it.

Stop imagining that the holiday season is about being “perfect”. A lot of stress you put yourself through comes from trying to match the perfect standard shown in magazines, TV, and other fanciful media. Perfection in images is an art form aimed at marketing, not a reality.

Don’t pin your happiness on the success of your holidays. Your happiness should be bigger than just the holidays. Be thankful for the family that you do have, the opportunities you’ve been given, and the future you can look forward to. Put things into perspective.

By all means, strive to perfect some duties and expectations, but don’t expect perfection. Your polar bear cookies might be misshapen, and your chicken overcooked, but it’s the thought that count. And thoughts, you’ve given plenty.

This is where delegation is vital (see below); delegation means shared responsibility for how everything turns out. Seek out help where necessary. This means letting go of some of your control. (It’s a good thing.)

Acknowledge feelings you have about the season. Not everyone enjoys the holiday season but it’s rare for anyone to say it. For most, the truth is that there are the ideals behind the holiday season, and there are the realities, and rarely do the twain meet. If you can acknowledge your worries, concerns and feelings about the season, you are better placed to deal with them in advance and to set limits on what you will and won’t tolerate.

Don’t force yourself to feel happy, buoyant and carefree when you don’t. It will only backfire and cause more stress. You’re entitled to dislike aspects of the holiday season without stressing over them. Just don’t be a Scrooge and ruin other people’s fun.

Acknowledging feelings doesn’t mean complaining or whining. These activities simply reinforce stressful feelings. Rather than complaining, acknowledge that some things are not enjoyable and set limits on being part of them, without beating yourself up over it.

Delegate. Delegation is an antidote to resentment and exhaustion, both of which add to the feelings of stress. Stock up on this antidote and make good use of it. The more you offload, the lighter the stress load and the more involved everyone else becomes. This includes work and home; work out tasks that you can delegate. Then, set about asking the relevant people to do their part.

Let go of your need to control everything. Maybe you’re a perfectionist and only trust yourself to get things done the way you want them. In a perfect world, you could control everything. But real life is sticky, and it involves trusting other people.

Things that can be delegated include: meal preparation, gift selection, gift-wrapping, transportation arrangements, work-fixes, and budgeting. Take up tasks you excel at and delegate tasks you don’t.

Stop doing trivial things that sap your time and make you feel more stressed. Stop sending out all those Christmas cards, reduce the list of gifts you’ll give this year, avoid playing Martha Stewart when decorating your house. If you feel like participating is about going through the motions or being seen to do the right thing, then you’re doing it for the wrong reason.

Substitute. Instead of making that gingerbread house from scratch, buy the pre-made kit so that all you have to do is have the fun of decorating with your kids. Instead of making gifts from scratch, visit a community aid store that sells handmade items from people in developing countries who need your financial assistance to lead better lives.

Accept that sometimes family isn’t going to get along. Sometimes, while trying hard to get along, things blow up and make for an awful day. Negotiating difficult family relationships over the holiday season can cause a lot of stress, especially if you’re trying to be the peacemaker who doesn’t allow yourself to let off steam. Here are some ways around this:

Don’t involve yourself in other people’s spats. (Yes, that also means not gossiping like a little schoolgirl again.)

Engage difficult people on neutral topics with accepting terms. Don’t give them reasons to argue; don’t join their arguments when they try to start them.

Understand that some of the more difficult people are possibly stressed, anxious and afraid themselves: their difficult behavior might be a manifestation of underlying stress.

Humoring difficult people without belittling them. Refusing to play their usual relationship games by remaining assertive and detached.

Don’t ask the family troublemaker to your seasonal event. Not everyone will have the courage to do this but for those who do, it speaks volumes. You can tell this person that if they can promise not to misbehave, as in previous years, they can count themselves re-invited but that if they do play up again, you won’t hesitate to ask them to leave immediately.

Concentrate on your achievements during the holiday season. There is a lot you could choose to be negative about. Why not flip this over to finding what there is worth feeling good about? Make the holidays about recognizing your achievements instead of shortcomings. Ask yourself:

What do you enjoy about your life this year? What can you learn from what you learned?

What things do you enjoy most about the holiday season? What gets you most excited?

What are the things that you’re doing this holiday season that you feel really good about? How are you giving to others less fortunate than you?

Holidays Yeah, But What A Stress!! – Part I

Merry Christmas - I

Although the holiday season is supposed to bring joy and harmony to all, the many expectations that lay behind the seasonal events can cause us to feel overwhelmed. And if you’re in charge of hosting, entertaining and preparing a range of holiday season events, the pressure soon mounts up. If the holiday season has you all tied up in knots, toss the guilt for not keeping up with all the expectations and start taking care of yourself so as to manage that stress and find ways to truly enjoy the holiday season.

Notice the physical signs that you’re suffering from stress. If you’re trying to soldier on in the face of all too much happening at this time of the year, it’s important to recognize the signs so that you’re able to heed them. Some of the physical signs to watch for include:

Exhaustion that can’t be fixed with a night’s proper sleep. This could be result of not enough sleep mounting up over several months and finally hitting you with a whammy. You know that the tasks upon tasks you volunteer for have consequences, but you aren’t able to stop!

Lack of energy. You can’t face the thought of having to make Christmas dinner or buy Hanukkah gifts; decorating for Kwanzaa makes you want to go into a tailspin. All you want is to rest.

Notice the mental signs that you’re suffering from stress. Apart from having absolutely no energy to do things you normally do without batting a lash, you may be feeling irritable, pessimistic, or depressive. These are mental signs you’re coping with too much stress.

Irritability. Everything irritates you, and you don’t know why. Unfortunately, this means you’ve forgotten to see the charm of your life, and you’ve started imagining that work’s getting harder and your kids more demanding, forgetting the joys and only seeing the hassles.

Lack of resilience. Your boss criticizes one small detail in the paper you’ve spent months getting ready in order to free up time for the holiday break. You fall apart, sobbing. She looks at you like you’re from outer space, and you begin to think she’s got a point.

Poor memory. You’ve lost the list of Kris Kringle names somewhere, and you can’t find your Santa costume from last year. Loss of memory might be infuriating but it’s also protective. It’s a suggestion to slow down big time.

Negative feelings. You’re already planning to be disappointed by Christmas dinner or the New Year’s party. Every other year has been a washout, so this one will be too. Oh, why even try? you start to wonder. You’re setting yourself up for disappointment.

Feeling down, feeling the blues or depressed. An inability to shake off the blues is a warning sign that stressors are getting to you. This is one step removed from negative feelings, which will also accompany feeling down but may also involved feeling like giving up or even suicidal thoughts. You need immediate help.

Give yourself a break. This time of year can fluster even the most unflappable. If you’re responsible for the majority of holiday season preparations, you’re under a lot of pressure. Despite the fun moments you sometimes share, it’s likely that you’re overloaded. If you’ve forgotten to take care of your own needs amid this, it’s not surprising that you’re feeling stressed. Some of the things you might benefit from include:

Blocking out several hours every few days for rest. This is you-time and it does not involve flipping through magazines planning Christmas lunch or New Year’s Eve cocktails. This is time to shut your eyes and put your feet up. Do anything other than what’s expected of you.

Treating yourself to a massage or a spa visit. Amid all the chaos, seek some serenity. (Men, you’re allowed to go to the spa, too, although mani/pedis are strictly optional.)

Taking time out to chat with a friend or two. Share your ideas for making it through the holiday season with greater ease. You might even help one another with babysitting arrangements or sharing tasks.

Visit your place of worship or spiritual spot more often than usual. Take time to pray, meditate or sit in a state of silence and peace. Allow the peacefulness to wash over you and remember the spirit of the season.

Restore your sleep. It may be the holiday season but that’s no reason for feeling like you’re a Grand Prix driver minus the fuel. It’s a vicious cycle: the less you sleep, the more sleep you need; the more sleep you need, the less time you have to do what you feel you need to do.

Start going to bed at a time that will ensure 7-8 hours of uninterrupted sleep every night. If things aren’t done, they can be done tomorrow or not at all. Trying to juggle too many responsibilities will eventually crush your optimism as well as your ability to get them done.

Ask your significant other for help. Tap your husband, wife, or partner to help you, so that you can catch more sleep. If you ask them in a kind, loving way, you’re more than likely to be met with eagerness.

Eat well. Don’t devastate your energy levels by starving yourself over the holiday season. Stay away from sugary, fatty and unhealthy snacks that can take the place of healthier food. While it’s fine to indulge on occasion, don’t use the holidays as an excuse to stop eating well.

Changing the way you eat as a reaction to the stress of the holiday season might seem like a way to make you feel better, but this can lead to weight gain. This can cause more stress and hurl you into another vicious cycle.

Eat three healthy meals a day and keep most of your snacks healthy. Focus especially on vegetables and proteins. Indulging occasionally is fine.

Eating less? Some people respond to stress by not eating altogether. This is hard on the body as well, depleting you of much-needed energy. Indeed, you might take in so few calories that you cannot maintain your energy during the day, which is not helpful to your health.

Get Yourself Into The Christmas Spirit

Christmas Spirit

Sometimes it’s hard when you grow older, because you lose the touch of the wondrous Christmas Spirit. Maybe you’re not too old–you felt it last year–but this year with money being tight, you can’t make your house feel the way it did, you feel a sense of loss, and you can’t feel that special feeling. I’ll tell you one thing, everyone deserves to feel that special Christmas feeling, nothing can compare to it.

Make a batch of Christmas cookies; make sugar cookies, and decorate it your own way with frosting, sprinkles, etc., to bring out the Christmas fun.

Hang up Christmas ornaments. When you focus on the ornaments, and just on getting it done, it’s not fun. But when you have fun, dance with the Christmas music, put a garland up, put little trinkets of Santa Claus, angels and whatnot. You will see that you will have fun.

Get out of the house. Go to special stores like Macy’s and Target and shop in the Christmas aisles, and have fun picking out what stuff you could possibly need. When you see other spirit around you, you’re more likely to have that special feeling once again.

Learn a Christmas song, one that you’ve never heard before, or one that is your favorite. Print it off the internet and sing the verses quietly to yourself at work, or at the store.

Put up your tree early. It doesn’t matter if you put it up after you read this article, or in a few days, just get it up early. That way, you can decorate the tree and have fun with it, expressing your creativity and feeling like you’re really into the spirit.

Give a gift, it doesn’t matter to whom. But take time with the gift, wrap it, and make your own card, add a special poem.

Spend time with family and friends. This probably is the most important way to feeling happy. Make some cookies, and invite a few over, and watch a Christmas movie such as “White Christmas”.

It’s not impossible to get into the Christmas spirit, no matter how hopeless it may seem.

Don’t focus on getting the spirit, just have fun. In time, you will see just these simple things will give you what you want.

Being Caring : It All Comes Back

Humble yourself. Release your anger and just try and be happy. Don’t brag about your own accomplishments, ask about someone else’s. It will show that you’re interested and that you care. Always find an opportunity to help someone else for a change.

Listen. Sometimes we like to talk about ourselves ALL the time; for once, just listen, other people have problems too. It’s also good to give them feedback after listening and tell them how their problem might be solved.

Have some sympathy. If someone is pouring their heart out, they will want someone sympathetic to support and comfort them. Ask them what you can do to help them in their time of need. Imagine what you would need in their situation.

Love yourself. In order to be caring to others you must be caring to yourself. Once you have yourself taken care of, you are better able to care for others. For example, you can’t function very well as a babysitter if you only got 2 hours of sleep last night. Getting a good night’s sleep makes you a more capable and less grumpy person.

Work on your confidence. In order to be caring you can’t be insecure and scared. Dress well and make yourself presentable. You’ll feel better about yourself and be more open toward others. Straighten your posture and stand tall. You can’t do much to help others if you’re own body is slumped over.

Get the facts. Try and see the situation from “both sides of the fence”. There are always at least two sides to every story, and by seeing both sides, it gives you a better understanding of what the matter really is. The more understanding you have of a situation, the more sympathetic you may be. And remember to have empathy and imagine how you would feel in their shoes.

Try to smile at people as you walk by so you don’t put yourself out there as a rude person . Be sure to try to deal with problems in a happy joyful way and try to be kind and friendly.

Recognize the power of a hug. Sometimes people will need a hug without even realizing it. Tell the person you care about how much they mean to you exactly and why you need them in your life and that you love them. It might seem so little to us, but to the person it can mean so much and can speak volumes on just how much we want that person in our life.

Tell them you love them every morning and every night before bed.

How To Have A Great Birthday Bash

Congratulations! It’s your BIRTHDAY!!! That’s awesome happy birthday! Of course you want the hottest dance party in the school so let’s get going.

Theme is the key. Hollywood night club is fabulous or 80’s disco!

Make a list of about twenty base people. You can then add and subtract people. Make or order invites that pop! Sparkly is great! For the clubs they can be black originally with purple and green. Hollywood can be red and black with movie stars.

Get a few boxes of pizza, chips, momos, and of course Birthday Cake! If you want to go more sophisticated with the cake you could do cupcakes or cookies with your initials on them!

No DJ! It is totally unneeded. Get your friends to mix you CDs for your birthday or bring their own. Have a friend DJ!

Decorations- Strobe lights are fabulous for the clubs and mirror/disco balls are too. Make everything sparkle!

Of course dancing is going be your main activity!! Get out DDR and hook it up and for some old school fun you can always play Spin the Bottle!

Beforehand, talk to your parents about the ideas you have for your birthday.

Get lots of sleep the day before so you are not too tired on this exciting day. If you’re having a sleepover this may also help you try to pull an all-nighter if you want to.

On the morning of your birthday, wait for your parents to go downstairs to ‘set everything up.’ You’ll probably wake up early, so occupy yourself by reading a book, for example. Your parents will call you downstairs when they’re ready.

Ask if you can open presents. Make sure you show appreciation for your gifts, even if it’s something you don’t think is quite ‘you.’ Perhaps even see if you can eat birthday cake for breakfast, unless you’re having your cake for your party.

After you’ve opened all of your presents, play with them. Figure out how they work and what you can do with them.

Go get dressed (If you haven’t already) and perhaps go biking around the neighborhood. Say hi to all your neighbors, this will get both you and them all in a good mood.

When you return home call your friends! Tell them all about your day so far and perhaps how excited you are for your party if you’re having one. Make sure you let them talk a little about themselves as well, you don’t want to seem selfish or too full of yourself.

If your party is on that same day, you may or may not have some spare time until your guests arrive, so spend it wisely! Try spending this time with your parents so they don’t feel excluded – they’re as important as your friends are. If your party isn’t on that same day, then use that time to be with your parents. It’ll help show your appreciation for how special they’ve made the day so far.

When your guests arrive, show them where to put their stuff and remember to thank them for any presents they give to you then and there. Give them a tour of the venue, whether that is your house or a different place, and spend time showing and telling them about the gifts you got. Remember to ask them about themselves, this creates a balanced conversation which is always essential in every relationship.

Have a good time. Remember to enjoy yourself – it is your birthday party after all.

Have a nice dinner with your friends and/or family. Pizza is always a good choice – and remember, you could always go out and eat.

The fun doesn’t end in the evening when you’re having a sleepover. Perhaps, you could pull an all-nighter? Make sure that you aren’t being too loud though; there are other people in the house that want to sleep, too.

When parents come to pick your friends up, remember to say thank you for coming. Perhaps even offer to carry their stuff to the car.

Being Crazy, The Craziest EVER

You and your 3 other best-friends-forever (BFFs) are hanging out in the classroom while the teacher is doing errands outside of the classroom.

But it’s so boring, and then all of a sudden, your best friend makes a loud outburst and then you all start cracking up. Your best friend is random, and not afraid to be funny in front of people, she is not afraid of being stupid in front of people to be funny. You want to be like her. Here’s how.

Be friendly to everyone you meet. That’s why your friend is so crazy, in a good way, because she knows everyone and isn’t shy.

If you want to be crazy, in clothing, wear clashing patterns and colors for example: Purple shirt with bright yellow pants!

Make some jokes yourself. Make everyone laugh.

If you are at a home game at your school, and your home team makes a goal or whatever; yell, whoop, and holler like your life depends on it!

Everyone loves being around someone who isn’t boring, but don’t be too crazy, or you’ll just be obnoxious.

Are We Really Free Within Our Culture?

I believe that within limitation we are free in our culture. George Mead thought, “both our mind and our body are social products”. He believed they were the outcome of our interactions with other people rather than how we grew up. I think that no matter what we believe to be right or true at a given time, if we have peers around we will tend to go with the crowd.

Sigmund Freud believed that is was important that the social agents of an individual were important to create the “sense of right and wrong as these matters are defined by cultural values, beliefs, and norms”. Freud also believed in the he thought it was important to “counteract the antisocial impulses of the id”. I think that Freud would have believed that we are free within our culture. He thought that the parents, peers, and teachers were important in guided us in the right direction but when it comes down to it we are the only one that can make the decision. We might have society behind us trying to edge us in one direction but we truly chose which way to go.

I agree with Freud on this topic. I know that we have all been put in the situation to chose between right and wrong and have had a hard time choosing. I know that I have. You want to make the right choice but you are not really sure. You want to go with want the society says but is it always right? I think this is where we are culturally free. Even though we have the believes of our family, our friends, what we have been taught in school, and what society says is right we also have our own believes. What we choose in the end is what we choose.

Just because someone sees us how the see us does not mean that is how we are. When I think of a rich person I think of someone rolling in money and being stuck up. I do not know any rich people so this is how I will continue to see them until I am proven wrong. They have the freedom of will to change how most people thing of them. People in any situation have the freedom to change their status and position to get to a better one or one that they enjoy more. We are never stuck in any place. We can always move up or down depending on how you want to be. It is all based on how much will power we have and how motivated we are to change our positions.

I think that understanding sociology could restrict personal freedom. I think of the angel on one shoulder and the devil on the other shoulder when I think of this. Understanding sociology is the one of them (you choose which one). It pulls you one way and wants you to go that way but then you have your own believes pulling you the other way. Understanding sociology just gives you more options. I think that it is good to have more options sometimes but other times you only want one choice. You just want to go the way everyone wants you to go and not ague with it. Just go with the flow.

When it all comes down I believe we are culturally free. We have a lot of knowledge on how to solve problems our handle life but we have the finale say on things.