Vulnerable In True Love

You are subconsciously hardwired to connect with others – friendship, love, intimacy, etc. – and your willingness to be vulnerable is the gateway to the affection you crave from them. But it takes serious courage to push the limits of your vulnerability, to dig deeper and deeper into the core of who you are as a unique individual and not only love and accept the imperfect parts of yourself but also expose them to someone else, trusting that this person will hold them considerately.

Ultimately, to love is to be vulnerable, and to be willingly vulnerable is to show your greatest strength and your truest self. Finding and nurturing the right relationships that make this kind of love possible is a beautiful, lifelong process.

Say Country What?

The Lady
Now today, I would like to enlighten you about a simple but seemingly complex issue that is ’Patriotism’. Now here in Teen Soup,
my main focus is surely the teens of today or the GenY. But it does reach out to the viewers of all ages. So to speak, this
generation appears to be the ruthless and carefree one, so brothers and sisters I feel you though but a part of me now
understands my lack of belonging towards humanism due to my sheer selfishness. A good example to explain my point to all my
fellow friends would be of citing an example of the biopic of the legendary Aung Sang Su Kyi, titled as The Lady. You guys, I’m
sure most of you don’t even know who she is and what she stood for and still continues to. She is one of the great followers of
the Gandhian principles which in today’s world are only known in theory. She is the driving force behind liberating Burma, now
known as Myanmar from the cruel and atrocious rule of the military force. She chose her country before her dying husband ridden
with cancer and her two young kids. She sacrificed her peaceful life in Oxford to fight for the rights of millions of aggrieved in
Burma and be their voice. The first election that was a result of her non-violent aggitations turned victorious for her with she
winning by 392 to 10 votes. Still she believed that her struggle and fight wasn’t over and there was a lot left to do in Burma.
She was kept on a house arrest for 15 long years away from her family. She was conferred with the Noble Peace Prize during the
time she served under strict prohibitions. Sadly her life had always been tragic with she first losing her father, country, mother and
later husband. And inspite of such a traumatic and life changing experience, she was hurt both mentally and psychologically but
she carried on with the vision she had come with in Burma. So teens, don’t you think she is enough of an inspiration for us to
change that I couldn’t care a damn attitude to actually realize what we have is through the sacrifices of many such people like
Gandhi, Mandela, Su Kyi etc. If we can’t get the meaning of freedom then better atleast respect it. Because what comes to us so
easily is a result of phenomenas like mass protects, genocides, sacrifices etc. I myself am not a person too much into patriotism
or nationalism. But after watching this beautiful movie of this Iron Lady, it gave me a reason to cherish what I’ve been gifted with.
So people, look up from those bedazzled phones, fancy watches, expensive shoes and mirror to see and understand life more
than materialism. Yes we have been brought up in a free world, but underestimating those martyrs would be a shame and
disgrace to them and their personal loss. So just try to go beyond what’s written in texts and utilize those teachings and principles
left like an abandoned kid wanting to be needed again or a dog wanting to be adopted. Look through the travails of time, and
worship your country like the monks of Burma to the ultimate sacrifice of Su Kyi for her people. This article wasn’t my plan, but the
impact or the impression that this movie left on me was worth sharing and making aware of.

Year End Blues : Let’s Swish Them Away

 

YearGo over your past year. Remember all the fun times you had, and all the times you smiled, and did something nice…Anything that made you feel good. Remember them and remember you year by these things.

Now, remember all the things that weren’t so good. Let’s not go into specifics…but remember all the mistakes you made, all the bad luck you had, and how sometimes you just felt like giving up.

Then think about what you’ve learnt from these mistakes and trying times, from those fun times and smiles. If it helps, write it down.

Now you’ve got that out of the way, look forward to next year.

New Year’s Eve is a time of partying, of celebrating accomplishments made in the soon-to-be-gone year, and for making toasts and resolutions for the upcoming three hundred sixty five days. However, New Year’s Eve can also be a sad time – some people may not have achieved their resolutions from the previous New Year’s Eve, the year might not have been a good one for a variety of reasons, or even the day of New Year’s Eve might not be the best it could have been.

Isolate the problem that is wearing you down. Think about why you’re feeling down on such a fine day of general celebration. Are you feeling down because you are pondering a year of disappointments? Are there resolutions you feel that you have failed to complete, perhaps year after year even? Or was the day simply a bad one and you’re not feeling up to celebrating this evening?

Solve the problem that you’ve identified. Once you’re aware of the problem at hand, you’re better placed to make a positive change. Write a brief list of the things that you think you can do in the coming year to remedy the problems identified.

Find a quiet space for a New Year’s Eve ritual. It’s a good idea to ritualize your New Year’s resolutions as part of the process of “sealing the deal” with yourself. It creates a moment to think back on over the coming year and it presents a turning point at which you choose to move forward. It doesn’t matter where you hold your ritual, or the type of ritual you choose, provided it has meaning for you and involves actively acknowledging your resolutions.

Take your mind off it. Relax. Celebrate. Have fun! It’s important to allow yourself to be distracted from your negative thoughts and to revel in the spirit of New Year’s Eve instead.

Start off on the right foot. Smile. Nothing is better than starting a new year with something that makes you happy. Whip up your favorite meal, listen to your favorite song, watch a great movie, and things of that nature. Avoid the melancholy music and avoid the alcohol if you’re feeling down; neither will improve your mood. Look to what makes you feel happier and indulge yourself. The first day of a new year is a chance to strive again.

Remember: Keep a positive mental attitude, don’t let the little things get to you, and make a new year something worth remembering. Life is too short for regrets–make the most of it!

 

Chivalry- R.I.P

We live in an age where the brutality and the vigilante justice of the knight errant is no longer acceptable for people with positions of stature in society. While courage and honor are still praised by society, one rarely finds a man true to his word regardless of cost. Chivalry towards ladies is sometimes mistakenly decried by those supporting equality for women. And Courtly love, in it’s modern form, is frowned upon. Those who might have a keen sense of justice often have only indirect methods of fighting for the right — legislation just can never be as satisfying as clouting a knave over the head with the flat of a blade. It seems that justice in American society is often tempered by compromise, rather than a blacksmith. Skill at arms is more often attained as an exercise, rather than a useful tool, and strength of body, while glamorized, is degraded by large numbers of “men of the mind.”

Chivalry is a lot like ethics; it is a governing principle concerning fair play as far as medieval combat among your peers was concerned. Do not attack an unarmed knight – allow him to arm himself first, if you unhorse your opponent and your opponent is still able to fight, get off your horse to fight, etc. – fair play with honor and respect. At the end, there still was a winner, and the winner ended up with more respect and admiration from those concerned that had he fought without chivalry. What am I getting at? Capitalism can be much the same way. American businesses have taken advantage of this system though, a system that one can cheat in and get away with, instead of being honorable and respectable institutions that children could look up to. So many things are like this that I just shake my head and sigh when I think about them – is American just a scam? Where did all the honor and respect go?

In “Sir Gawain and the Green Knight,” Gawain made a promise to the huntsman  to give him whatever gifts he received that day in exchange for whatever gifts the huntsman received that day.  On the third and final day of Sir Gawain’s visit, he received a green girdle from the huntsman’s wife, who was his secret lover.  The only reason that he accepted it was because he, like Lancelot, had fear in his heart;  only Gawain’s fear was dying.  The huntsman’s wife told Gawain that the girdle had magic powers and would protect him from his fate, for the next day Gawain was going to fulfill a promise that he had made to the Green Knight and get his head chopped off.  At the end of the day, when Gawain met the huntsman to exchange gifts, he did not give the huntsman the girdle, and broke his promise so that he would fulfill his promise to the Green Knight.  He, like Lancelot, betrayed the code of chivalry for their own purposes.

The most prominent example of Arthur’s “great” honor is depicted in the story “Day of Destiny.”  In the story King Arthur and his knights have one the arduous battle against his half son Mordred’s army.  The only one’s left standing on the field is King Arthur and two of his knights Sir Lucan and Sir Bedivere.  Lucan says to Arthur “sir, let him be,”… “for he brings misfortune.  And if ye pass this unfortunate day ye shall be right well revenged.  And, good lord, remember ye of your night’s dream and what the spirit of Sir Gawain told you last night, and God of His great goodness hath preserved you hitherto.  And for God’s sake, my lord, leave this battle field, for yet be here three alive, and with Sir Mordred is not one alive.  And therefore if ye leave now, this wicked day of destiny is past!” Arthur’s response to Sir Lucan’s speech is “Now come death, come life,”.  What this proves is that Arthur shows his honesty and loyalty to his promise;  the purpose of the killing was to kill Sir Mordred and that exactly is what transpired in the end.

In the movie “Excalibur” that we had viewed in class, Lancelot attempts to be honest by refusing the love and attention of Guenevere.  Nevertheless he becomes enchanted by the beauty and charm of the lady and he falls for her.  Although obviously disobeying the Knights code of honor he continues his affair with Guinevere.  Although people always endeavour to be as honest and just, a honourable knight cannot afford to deceive anyone, because consequences could have an adverse affect on them later.

Honor is not a virtue. It is the essential quality that accrues to a man when other people view them as being virtuous-i.e. they honor them. The drive for honor earns a knight or man-at-arms renown, his fame, his good name. It is always a very strong motivator for some soldiers. Honor in a personal sense is often confused with such ‘public’ honor, but I say rather that this is not honor but integrity.

Chivalry is a romantic ethic, doomed to failure; Arthur fails because he had too much pride in himself although his heart was in the right place his mind never was. But I come away from good events with a heart full of courtesy and generosity, with a strengthened sense of my own honor, and with a little more courage and persistence in the face of a less than ideal world. That is the reason that during the Middle Ages warriors and rulers at their leisure turned to dreams. That is the reason we today are drawn to these virtues of chivalry. We may never live out a romantic ethic, but it is a food as nourishing as any at the table, and a wealth as dear as any coin of the time…