Nonchalantly bring up the word ‘affair’ and see how your spouse reacts to it. If they seem indifferent, they don’t suspect anything yet. However, if they seem to have a mood change, ask, ‘what’s wrong?’ and assure them of your love for them!
If you are having an affair with someone that your spouse doesn’t know, keep it that way! Avoid all chances of them meeting! If it’s someone they do know, that’s a different story! Your best bet would be to act as if nothing is wrong. But, you may want to try to avoid being with both of them at the same time!
Don’t act guilty! If your spouse seems to start getting jealous, give them the attention they want! If you act like they aren’t there anymore, they will know something is up!
When you are going to meet with the person you are having an affair with, make sure you come up with a believable excuse! ‘I have to work late” is the oldest excuse in the book and NO ONE will believe it! You’re not fooling anyone with that! Try something along the lines of, “Oh god, I forgot about the _____! Let me run to the store and pick it up!” Then, when you’ve been gone longer than expected, say you ran into someone unexpectedly! Be creative when you are lying!
Don’t leave your phone unattended! You don’t want your spouse to get a hold of it! There are probably things on there that you want to hide! So delete often!
Last but not least, know how to lie! If you’re not good at making up a believable story on the spot, you should not be having an affair!
Remember all the details of your lies/ stories! The last thing you want is to be tangled up in your own web!
Don’t let the person you are having an affair with get too attached! This could definitely backfire in the long run!
Stay under the radar! Don’t go out in public with the person you are having an affair with unless it’s outside of your own town! Running into someone you know would not be pretty!
Have fun! That’s why you’re having an affair in the first place, isn’t it?
Delete everything on your phone every few hours! You don’t want anyone seeing anything they aren’t supposed to!
Sometimes, even if you’re playing a fair game, life deals your hand from the bottom of the deck. There’s no reason for it, necessarily, but it happens. For some people, “Life sucks” might be no date for the prom, or a big zit on the nose—just in time for that big date. For others, it might be getting a phone call as you and the children are decorating the Christmas tree, saying your spouse was just killed in an accident. You may suffer from chronic depression, such that even though you know how good things look on the surface (to others), life couldn’t be worse for you.
Examine your situation. What’s causing the pain you are feeling? This is going to be key to working your way back to positive territory.
If it’s situational—for example, you got fired, it’s pouring down rain, and on the way home with all your office belongings in the car, that little spare tire that you’ve been running on gives up the ghost, leaving you stranded on the other side of town—you’re going to need a different set of “positive” tools than if you have been diagnosed with a melanoma.
External factors can be dealt with by taking positive steps to repair or at least address the root problem as best as you can. Whatever the primary cause of the suck age that cause must be addressed first. You may or may not be able to solve the problem, per se, but at least knowing you’re taking positive steps forward is one less weight to have to carry, and it will help you improve your outlook. It will not be easy, of course, or we wouldn’t be calling this “sucking.”
If it’s physical or mental—maybe you’re bipolar, or suffer chronic depression—you must balance any attempt at “being positive” with an understanding that the reality is, it’s going to be an ongoing battle for your own survival. Because depression will undermine even the strongest of wills, you will need help to maintain—or at least be reminded of—a positive outlook. Counseling, psychotherapy, and the right combination of medication will play a crucial role in helping to keep you from sinking into that very dark place that is the essence of depression. Be patient, but don’t look for miracles. It may be that you will need the help of professionals throughout your life to maintain a generally even keel.
Don’t give in. When you’re in the middle of a suck vortex, those words will have little meaning, because everything you know in your bones to be true is telling you that giving in would be so easy to do.
People will tell you “just get over it,” or “get a grip.” They know—and you know—that if you were to look objectively at the sum of your life, that it’s not as bad as it feels; there are many people whose lives are measurably worse than yours. So what! Their lives, no matter how terrible, are not your life, and your situation is unique to you.
Don’t try to “get over it.” If one could “will away” depression, there would be no need of doctors or drugs. What you can do is understand why you feel like you do, and explain to your would-be counselors that you wish it were that easy, and that you appreciate their concern. Don’t push them away—at the very least, you can be positive that they are there for you, however clumsy and unaware their platitudes may be. Who knows, their bumbling efforts may even provide some amusement or distraction!
Take care of your body and soul. Given that you are probably an emotional wreck in a world of sewage, swimming in the debris of whatever damage the suck age has wrought, this is not the time to become a world champion hotdog eater, consumer of tubs of ice cream, or finding the bottom of the bottle of Jack. Treat yourself well, even though you feel like hell. How, you ask? Here are some ideas:
Give your pet some love. They know you’re not their normal human, but the beauty of pets is unconditional, unquestioning love. Be playful with them, find a simple game that amuses both of you (the fake ball-throw is always a canine favorite), and let yourself forget your troubles for 5 or 10 minutes. It won’t solve your problem, but it will lighten the load.
Eat as well as you possibly can. Even if you have very little money, make it a point to eat a more balanced, healthier diet than you do when all is well. Lots of greens and colored vegetables, and a variety of fruit and nuts, are all super healthy for you, and they’re much less expensive than meats, cheeses, and processed foods! Their nutritional value will elevate your body, and knowing you are treating yourself will elevate your mind.
Also, look for foods rich in vitamin B12 and Omega-3. These include dark green vegetables, nuts, soybeans, and fatty fish such as salmon, tuna, and mackerel.
Cut back on the caffeine drinks. You don’t need to quit, but cutting back will help reduce chemically induced anxiety and stress, and smooth any recovery time.
Exercise your body. It may be a sport you enjoy, yoga, cross training, or even a simple walk in the park. But keeping your body active will help your outlook.
Throw yourself into a hobby you enjoy. Whether its art, photography, music appreciation, or building a ship in a bottle, focusing on something other than the suck factor will give your mind some time off for good behavior.
Join a community that you’re not already part of. It could be a support group for whatever you’re going through, or a group of people that share your love of Lord of the Rings, or a charity such as Habitat for Humanity. You may find solace and purpose in ways you never imagined.
Do not crawl into a hole and disappear. Your friends and loved ones probably know your life sucks. They may or may not be able to help you directly, but they can give you emotional and moral support.
Sleep. You don’t need to be told this. Your body is probably begging you for it when you are in the middle of hard times. You may actually be drawn to sleep all day. While that might feel good at the moment, it only puts off the inevitable, so try to maintain good sleeping habits. Maintain a consistent sleep schedule, but allow yourself some leeway. If you sleep fitfully for half the night, then finally fall asleep at 4am, don’t get up at 6:30 unless you absolutely must. Let your body get about 8 hours for the best results.
Seek help immediately. Yes, life sucks. Sometimes, it can become overwhelming to the point where you figure that swallowing a bottle of pills, or a 9 mm, will be preferable to another day of pain. If those thoughts start to invade your senses, deal with them as if your life depended on it—because it does.
If you’re just starting to have those thoughts, speak to your physician or your therapist. They may prescribe something to help steer you back to the center, emotionally. It may be the act of talking about it is therapeutic enough, but don’t assume that. Leave that call to the professionals.
If you’re at a more advanced stage, thinking about last meals, what to write, how you’ll do it, and if anybody will even care (or that this will “teach them a lesson”), stop whatever you’re doing. Pick up a phone. Dial 1-800-273-8255, and tell them what’s on your mind. If your urge is not quite immediate, go to Google, and enter “suicide hotline.” The results should include the number above, plus local resources that can help, no matter what the cause.
Note that if you’re in the end stage of a terminal illness, the above suggestion may be not be the best course. Some countries, and one State in the United States, permit physician-assisted suicide—its purpose to provide for a quiet, controlled departure from this world.
First of all, have a positive attitude. If you think positive, you’d get positive results too. Good things sometimes happen when you think positive. Tell yourself that you’re going to make it.
Study. How will you pass if you don’t study? Not unless you’re a genius! Study in the best way you can.
Be As Well As You Can Be Get a good night’s sleep the night before you take a test. For 24 hours before the test, avoid eating foods that disagree with you.
Record notes on a digital voice recorder and in your free time, listen to them like you would an audio book.
Read the Questions Carefully Many answers are missed because the question was not completely read or was misread. “NOT” is the most commonly misread word. When answering an essay question, reread the question several times to make sure you are staying on-topic.
Read each question in order, answering the ones that you know easily in your first reading, When you get to the end of the test, pause, relax, stretch, close your eyes and clear your mind for a minute or two; then begin the test again. Begin your “second sweep”. Reread the questions that you were not able to answer the first time. After you have answered all questions, if you have time, you can skim all the questions and answers one last time. Don’t change an answer unless you are absolutely certain. Most changed answers are not as good as the original ones.
Scratch Paper Unless you are specifically told not to, you can assume that it is acceptable to write on your test paper. To help yourself focus on the task at hand, you may:
Circle the numbers of the questions that are difficult for you to answer so that you can identify them for your “second sweep”.
Underline key words that will help you answer the question.
Write down pieces of information that you are sure you will need but are afraid of forgetting during the test.
If you are told that you should not be writing on the test, ask for a piece of scratch paper, and use that instead.
When You Don’t Know Guess The one exception to this is when you will be penalized for a wrong answer. For most tests, an unanswered question and an incorrectly answered question are scored the same. If they are scored the same and you leave the answer blank, you have no chance of being right at all; but if you guess you at least have a chance.
True – False
If ANY part of a true – false question is false, select “false.”
Watch for words like “always” and “never”, they most likely indicate a false answer. Do your best to think of exceptions to “always” and “never”.
Multiple Choice Make sure to note whether or not there may be multiple answers. Words like “select all that apply” suggest there may be more than one answer.
State Specific Memory State-specific memory is a term used in psychology that means you remember something best when you are in the same state of mind as when you were exposed to it. For optimum results in testing, try to be in the same mental state when you study as you will be when you are tested. Don’t drink lots of coffee to take the test if you didn’t do so when you were studying.
Always think positive.
Always be hopeful and don’t doubt yourself.
Sleep well before exams, so your mind will be alert before, after, and during the exam.
Study less, with more concentration, if possible. If you want to study for a long time then you can take breaks in between to regain your concentration after you return from the break.
Do not study a subject only once. If you have more time you can revise for your studies twice or thrice, but only if you have a lot of time and have revised for all your other subjects at least once or you may forget what you revised.
If you are a memorizing person, or want to be, lecture to yourself (out loud) while also using your hands; this way it will be easier for you to memorize. Do a whole section, then move onto the next. Do this until you finish the whole of the chapter you’re working on.
Remember this analogy: ‘Study without ambition is a bird without wings’.
Finding out who is writing the exam can be helpful. This way, you might be able to understand what sort of questions will be used (i.e: short answer, essays, multiple choice, etc.) Just do not put all your time into finding out who the exam writer is.
The above tip is really effective, especially for a subject like social studies.
Asking teachers for help conveys your commitment to the material, and can be helpful in the future as well as with your exams. Always remember to ask your teachers if you do not know what she is talking about or if you need more information. The teacher will gladly help.
Always try to be happy, don’t give stress to the personal matter while studying
If you ask help from others, don’t joke around. Concentrate on what you are doing.
Sometimes people find it easier to study with a friend, while others find that distraction. While studying with a friend can be lots of fun, don’t forget that you’re supposed to actually study — not chat!
Various university facilities are at your disposal and you probably don’t even know it. There are usually personnel who are trained to help you cope with stress, answer study-related questions, give you study tips and other forms of guidance. Just visit your uni website or ask your professor what help is available.
Even if you do happen to get a C or lower on your test, many schools now allow students to retake tests, and will average the two scores out. Or, if you are lucky, give you the higher grades. Also, never forget that there is ALWAYS extra credit. Go for it whenever you can.
It’s better to study slowly rather than cramming at the last minute.
Revise the work that you did in class on the same day.
Eat breakfast — it will help you concentrate.
Don’t be overconfident, always anticipate the hardest question, and then everything will seem easier.
Don’t only depend on your friends too.
Don’t be too dependent on the teacher.
Start studying at least a week before the exam.
Don’t study only on the night before the exam. Study everything bit by bit when you come home from school every day. It’s no use studying everything in one shot.
Don’t depend heavily on the help of others.
Avoid stress from other people, if at all possible. Don’t hang around friends that worry and stress. This will rub off on you.
Understand what is being taught. Ask questions if you don’t.
Ask your teacher what are some things you can do to study for the exam
Although some people find it a “good” idea, drinking absurd amounts of coffee, tea, or any other caffeine source is not a good move, especially on the day before the exam. You’ll crash eventually and you’ll feel groggy the day of the exam, almost guaranteeing an inferior performance. Just sleep at 10.00 everyday.
Never be late for exams.
You should eat only as much as required. Try not to put stress on both your stomach AND your mind.
If you fail, don’t stress, hence the last tip! You’ve gotten so far, and you can make it back up there!
Cheating won’t solve your exam problems, it will just end up with getting you busted. Just study well. Getting good grades that were earned honestly will motivate you to study and achieve even more. You’ll also feel better when you get your grade!
Exams are terrible and stressful things to study for, especially knowing that they can make or break your final mark.
Create a revision timetable. It is important to budget your time, to ensure that you cover all the topics covered in the exam. Remember to take regular breaks and get out and exercise.
Rewrite your notes to aid memory. Rewriting your notes is great if you’re a kinesthetic learner. Mind mapping is the most effective way of doing this. Also, when you re-write something, you will probably think about what you are writing, what it’s about, and why you wrote it down. Most importantly, it refreshes your memory. If you took notes a month ago and just found out that those notes will be relevant in your exam, rewriting them will remind you of them when you need it for your exam.
Find the right hours. Don’t study when you’re really tired. It’s better to study for two hours in one day than to try and cram in that daily hour of studying at two in the morning. You won’t remember much and you’re likely to stop before you have studied what you need.
Don’t cram. Cramming the night before is proven to be ineffective, because you’re taking in so much information at once that it’s impossible to memorize it at all — in fact, you’ll hardly retain anything. I know it’s been preached to you many times before, but it’s true: Studying before and going over it multiple times really is the best way to learn the material. This is especially true with things like history and subjects dealing with theory.
Different subjects call for different studying. If its math you’re studying for, work on the problems. Don’t just read over it like you would for a history class, because you can actually do math, but you can seldom do history. Working problems out will help burn them into your mind, and remember: if you can’t solve the problem before the exam, you won’t be able to solve it on the exam either. For subjects based on calculations, it is important to do questions because this is essentially how you are going to be tested. With questions.
If you are studying for a more social subject, re-read your notes, or re-write them! Make sure you know what you’re talking about!
Choose good surroundings. How do you study best? In your PJ’s and your favorite t-shirt? With music or without? In your room or outside? Regardless, you probably won’t be able to study while there are distractions like:
Your darling little brother or sister is running screaming around the house. You are going to end up watching movies because they are far too distracting.
Your older brother or sister is bothering you on purpose.
Your music blasting, especially if it’s a song you want to sing along to instead of studying.
It’s too dark. Your eyes will strain in dim light.
You’re in a mess. Clean your room, as the mess around you really can distract you from what you’re doing.
Get enough light. For men, try studying with a dimmer light (though not overly dim). Statistics say that 75% of people study and focus better in a brighter room with little noise.
Turn the TV off, more often than not. Some people like to have the TV on quietly in the background. This can cut both ways in that it can distract you from time to time, but also can help you to continue studying. It’s a risky strategy to have the TV on: nobody really knows how much it takes away from your attention. Chances are it’ll be more distracting than you realize.
Take Breaks. You need some time to have fun and it is better to revise when you are feeling relaxed than to exhaust yourself studying all day! The only caveat is, you need to avoid procrastination.
Plan ahead. Always create a plan before you start studying. Remember that this plan has to be achievable. If 3 out of 5 lessons are easy and can be finished fast, finish them first, so you can spend quality time on the difficult lessons without fretting. Small tricks like these will help you complete your portions quickly.
Review your notes. When you are finished studying one page of your notes, before you move on to the next page, ask yourself questions relating to the material on that page to see if you have remembered what you just studied. It also helps to say the answers to your questions out loud as if you were trying to explain it to someone else.
Ask yourself: What is my teacher most likely to ask on the exam? What materials should I focus on to give myself the best chance of knowing what I need to know? What trick questions or wrinkles could my teacher introduce that might throw me for a loop?
Ask for help. If you need help, ask someone who is good at these subjects. Friends, family, teachers are all good options. If you don’t understand what the person helping you is communicating, don’t be afraid to ask them to elaborate.
Be prepared on the big day. On the day of your exam, look at your notes before the exam so that the information is still fresh in your head.
Get plenty of rest the night before. Children under 18 need anywhere from 10 to 11 hours of sleep per night.
Eat a balanced breakfast full of lean protein, vegetables, omega-3 fatty acids, and antioxidants. A sample breakfast might include spinach omelets with smoked salmon, whole wheat toast, and a banana.
Get to the exam room with time to spare. Give yourself at least five or 10 minutes to gather your thoughts before starting the exam. That means being in the exam room five to 10 minutes before the exam starts.
Sooner or later, every girl gets her period. Learn about how to be ready for your first period or just for your period in general!
Find out as much information as you can about your period. The library has many magazines and books, and websites and counselors will be happy to help you too.
Go on to pad/tampon websites because they might have free samples. You may need to ask your parents and they should be fine with it because after all, it’s free! Also do research. Most pad/tampon websites tell you about their products so learn which ones sound good. If you can, avoid buying pads or tampons until you have samples so that way, if they’re crummy, you didn’t waste any money on them.
Keep at least one pad or tampon in all of your purses, book bags, locker, lunch bags, etc… Because you or a friend could start and it isn’t very fun to have blood-stained panties.
Get used to your cycle. When you are still irregular, it might help to wear panty liners every day so if you start it doesn’t leak through anything. Mark a calendar so you can track your days but make it private. (Maybe, a little dot on the days in your calendar so it can be discrete and useful at the same time)
Use period panties that are meant for periods. Regular panties don’t give the protection needed during periods.
If you feel somewhat moody or emotional right before or during your period-that is normal. It is called PMS.
If your period catches you by surprise at school, wipe yourself as best as you can. Ask your teacher if you can go to the school nurse or guidance counselor. If there is no school nurse ask your teacher (if she is female) if she has a spare pad.
Remember, when your period first starts, it is almost 100% that it will be irregular. Do not worry or think you have some serious condition. It’s all part of the cycle. Be ready for cramping and/or stomach aches too. But if you really do think you have a problem, find a doctor or a trusted adult.
Ask any questions you have because it is totally okay to ask questions.
Always keep an extra pair of shorts/trousers in your locker/bag just in case of an emergency.
If you want, waste some. Not all of them, but a few. Do those tests they do on T.V. where you pour water with food coloring on the pad and see how much water it can take. Put a tampon in a cup of water and watch it expand. Quite frankly, it can be fun. Those ways you can test which absorbency really are super. Like take 2 different brands of super flow pads and put the same amount of water in and see if one holds more. (Valuable information for when you start so if you are really heavy you can decide which will let you leak and which won’t.)
Talk to your mother: sure, it’ll be awkward, but remember, she’s been through this too!
Try to take painkillers or Ibuprofen-(check with your doctor)-if your stomach ache gets beyond bearable.
Always keep a Tide to Go Stick with you just in case if your period catches you by surprise (or not) and you leak.
Never leave your tampon inside of you for more than 8 hours. If you leave it in longer than that you have a greater risk of catching Toxic Shock Syndrome (TSS), it is rare, but sometimes deadly.
If you get some blood on your clothes or sheets, always use cold water not hot. Hot water can set the stain. Rub fresh stains with some salt, as it absorbs the blood. If you have hydrogen peroxide adds it to the cold water and let it soak. It is best to do this when the stain is fresh.
Always wash your hands before and after inserting a tampon or putting on a pad. (You don’t have to, but it’s better if you do)
Around the time you enter middle school, start carrying around a few pads (tampons are not recommended for your first period, wait till it becomes regular) so that you won’t be caught off guard.
It is a Christian tradition that is observed in many denominations. The following article focuses on observing Lent in the Catholic tradition. Lent is the hallowed forty-day period of sacrifice leading up to Jesus’ death and Resurrection. During Lent, Catholics and some Protestants prepare for Holy Week by fasting, praying, and reconciling with the Lord. These forty days are a wonderful time to rethink everything and to allow ourselves to take up our crosses as Christ did.
Make a Lenten calendar. Such a calendar will help you to focus on the progression of the Lenten season. Lent is 40 days long and doesn’t include Sundays. It ends the Friday before Easter; count backwards from there.
Decide on your Lenten sacrifice. Our sacrifice is a reminder of the sacrifice of self Jesus made to save us from our sins. Think about all the trivial things in your life that shift your focus away from God. Do you find that you dedicate more time to sending text messages and posting status updates than to prayer and time with God? Do you have a habit of eating junk food excessively?
Take something on. While many people choose to give harmful things up for Lent, you could use the season to help you build good habits. You could promise to be more patient and kind toward your neighbor, or you could vow to help the needy. Whether you choose to sacrifice or to adopt new, strengthening habits, you should allow your Lenten promises to help you grow in faith and virtue.
Attend church service as often as possible. In addition to weekly Sunday service, it’s good to go to church frequently, especially during the Lent. Lent begins on Ash Wednesday when we remember that we come from dust and to dust we shall return. Many traditions often have an additional worship service in mid-week, and attendance at these services is a good way to participate in Lent.
Go to Reconciliation. Reconciliation, or Confession, is a wonderful way to turn away from sin and reunite yourself with Christ. If you don’t already, try getting into the habit of going to Confession on a regular basis. The Catholic Church has made it obligatory that all the faithful receive the sacrament of Penance at least once a year and once during the season of Lent, though it’s recommended that you attend Confession at least once a month if possible.
Spend time on devotions. Though not required, devotions are a great way to put yourself in the right mindset for Lent. The Church highly encourages Adoration of God or the veneration of the Blessed Virgin and the saints. Your local parish probably has regular Eucharistic Adoration, where you can go to sit and engage in deep prayer, in the presence of the Blessed Sacrament. To practice veneration, you could say a decade of the Rosary daily, or pray to your patron saint.
Fast and abstain. All Catholics aged fourteen and older are asked to abstain from meat on Lenten Fridays, though fish is allowed to be eaten. Additionally, Catholics aged 18-59 are obliged to fast on Ash Wednesday, Good Friday, and all Lenten Fridays, meaning that only one full meal may be eaten in the day.
Giving something up for Lent is no longer a religious mandate. Some communities or individuals take on something new, change a usual tradition, or simplify a piece of their lives instead. The point of these disciplines is to focus oneself inward on a spiritual journey with Christ in preparation for the season of Easter.
Lent is traditionally the time when those who are thinking of becoming Christians learn about the faith and prepare to be baptized. This means that many churches hold extra classes to learn about the faith. This is a good place to do some learning for the first time, or to refresh your understanding of being a Christian.
People have a hard enough time figuring out what love is, and then there’s unconditional love, which some will argue is the only kind of real love.
Think of love as an action, not a feeling. A feeling is something we get from someone, and when we stop getting it, we often change our behavior somehow. If we have to do something, or be a certain way, in order to receive love, that love is conditional. Instead, if you start thinking of love as the behavior itself, the reward becomes the feeling you get when you act a certain way, not when someone else acts a certain way. And you can continue acting this way all the time, regardless of how other people behave it becomes an act of generosity. Love is not love except when it is generous. Feelings cannot last, but you can renew them continuously with new actions.
Always ask yourself, what is the most loving thing I can do for this particular person in this particular moment? Love isn’t really one size fits all; what might be a loving act toward one person could be harmful to another person, in that it doesn’t help them get closer to becoming a truly happy human being. Unconditional love is a new decision you need to make in every situation, not a hard and fast rule you can apply to everyone all the time.
Remember that love doesn’t mean making sure someone is always comfortable. If you believe loving someone is about fostering their growth, most people acknowledge that pain and discomfort are part of growth, and if you shield someone from all pain or discomfort, you do not love them. So, don’t confuse loving someone with blindly making them comfortable, satisfying their desires, and shielding them from any kind of pain. If you do, you are only making it difficult for them to grow as human beings.
Consider that if love is unconditional, it is given to everyone freely, including you. Another reason the previous step is important is because if you don’t follow it, you’re well on your way to becoming a people pleaser, which means you are not being unconditionally loving to yourself. Instead, recognize the times when doing what is best for you will occasionally have you out of sync with another.
Forgive. Even if someone doesn’t apologize, it inherently loves to both them and yourself to let go of your anger and resentment toward them. Keep in mind that forgiving “is not something we do, but something we are.” Again, don’t mistake being willing to forgive for letting people walk all over you. How you act (lovingly) toward the person will vary, but your ability to practice unconditional love will be clouded if you hold on to negative feelings.
Allow yourself to reap the benefits. If you’ve ever had a moment when you practiced unconditional love, whether spontaneously or deliberately, you probably felt energized and liberated, not drained and burdened. The more often you feel the the former after acting a certain way, the more you’re loving unconditionally.
Love means wishing others to be happy. Love is about what we give not what we get.
Practice doing something for someone each day with love alone. Do it without expecting anything in return. Do it without anyone knowing it. For example, you can pray for your friends or family members who live far away. You can send email, text, or a letter to someone whom you have not been in touch with for quite a while. Give compliments to other people. You can give a smile to a stranger passing by. You can pet your dog or cat. Do small things with great love each day. And watch your heart expand to more love.
Many people feel a sweep of unconditional love upon the birth of a child. That’s not to say everyone does or should, or that you can’t feel it otherwise. It just may be a useful way for some people to remember what unconditional love is supposed to feel like.
Start up a conversation with someone you like. If there is somebody you have your eye on, talk to them about anything and try to gradually change the topic to Valentine’s Day. If this is hard to do, on the week of Valentine’s Day, casually go up to them and ask if they’re doing anything interesting this week, do this subtly, as if you are bored or trying to be polite.
Make sure the person you have your eye on does not have a Valentine! Many people make the mistake of not asking their proposed Valentine if they have a date and cause themselves unnecessary embarrassment later on!
Make sure they would be willing to have a Valentine. If they go on and on about how they wish they could have a Valentine you can casually say, “I’ll be your Valentine!” and all is well, but if they don’t mention anything at all, make sure they would be willing to have a Valentine. They may prefer to have the day to themselves or already have a date.
Make sure they will be able to go on a date. If they are away on Valentine’s Day, then you cannot really have a Valentine’s date. However, you could ask them out in general, or go out another day.
Enjoy it! Valentine’s day is meant to be for you to enjoy! Do not get nervous, however hard it may seem, and try to not get sweaty as this is a big turnoff!
Whatever you do, make sure you don’t ditch them if they accept to be your Valentine. This will reduce the chances of you ever going out, ever.
Always be yourself. Do not try to change yourself to make someone like you. If they do not like you just move on to the next.
Some media groups have dating programs for the lonely so just go to some tv or radio stations to pool in possible dates for valentines.
Make an effort. If you are dressed as a tramp and she is a high-class make-up and heels kind of girl, she will not be attracted to you, unless that is the kind of person you know she goes for.
Always ask them to choose the destination first. This is good manners and will impress. If they can’t decide, and only if they can’t decide, you can choose.
Yet, it would be unusual to proceed without a few uncomfortable social situations along the blissful way.
Once you’re engaged, you’ll be meeting the in-laws and introducing families, moving along formally on the path to uniting kin, and your future family. Unless you’re high school sweethearts, you probably haven’t met each other’s parents and siblings. Even though you’re planning on being your perfect self during this encounter, having the right small talk ammunition can be the key to setting off a great first impression.
Give a compliment. Tell your fiancé’s mom how much you like her shoes, or her home. Or better yet, compliment her on the amazing child she raised, the person with whom you can’t wait to spend your life. Compliments automatically make people feel more comfortable and can often be an excellent launching pad for conversation.
Be polite. Politeness is paramount when interacting with your future in-laws. Generally, whatever you learned in kindergarten is a good rule to follow: share the speaking floor, say “please” and “thank you”, and be respectful. If you don’t demonstrate manners at this meeting, your relationship with your in-laws could be off to a rocky start.
Ask questions. This is a great opportunity to ask questions about your in-law’s family history, traditions, or specific values. Not only will you seem considerate for caring, but you’ll gain some interesting insight into the person you’re marrying and be able to incorporate your fiance’s family legacy into the wedding.
Stay on neutral topics. In your first meeting with your new family, don’t ramble on about your deep connection to some ancient and eccentric spiritual belief. By avoiding hot topics like religion and politics, the conversation will keep the mood light. That’s not to say you should hide who you are, but reserve those more comprehensive conversation topics for a more appropriate time.
Control your cocktails. Don’t let your drinking get out of hand when initially meeting your in-laws (or throughout the entire wedding process). If everyone is having a cocktail, slowly sip one graciously, and leave it at that. Over consumption of alcohol can lead to bad behavior, inappropriate remarks, and embarrassing conduct that you can’t take back. You want to be married forever, not leave a bad impression forever.
Introduce your families to one another. Now that you’ve aced meeting your in-laws, it’s time for both families to make an acquaintance. If that means introducing your liberal, outspoken New York parents to your fiancé’s conservative, reserved Nebraska parents, so be it. Breathe. Ensuring that the meeting is effortless means following all of the above rules, which continue to apply throughout your entire wedding process.
Give clear indications on possible conversation topics. Fill your family in on some interesting facts about your future family. Things such as occupation, favorite hobbies, and general likes and dislikes, are a good place to start. If you provide your family with some specific insights, they will be more equipped with conversation clues.
Follow up. After the meeting, send a thank you email to everyone and attach a picture or two. By doing this, you will open up new lines of communication, giving everyone a chance to say anything they may not have had a chance to say and this will help to keep the conversation flowing. By tying up loose ends, you’ll feel more comfortable tying the knot.